LET'S TALK ABOUT SEX

Did you know daddies determine the child’s sex at conception? Therefore, we daddies have a huge responsibility and role to play in shaping our children’s sexual expression later on in life. The issue of sex MUST and SHOULD be discussed honestly, openly and early with our children. There are several children, whose father completely ignored this area of teaching, and today they are struggling because of it, we can’t afford to let our children learn about sex on their own. Discussing the issue of sex with the children may sound or appear awkward, but we’ve got to be open with both our sons and daughters in order to affirm them toward healthy sexuality. Now let’s be specific: 1. Be equipped with the relevant facts. This should include everything from the basic; what is and is not appropriate dressing; who should and should not touch them in certain ways; when, where and how. Talk about issues of rape, harassment, and abuse. Be factual and truthful. 2. Start the issue of sexuality early and do it often. Make your conversation age appropriate. Let the sex education start with your toddlers when teaching them parts of the body. Don’t delay till they get to the puberty stage as they are getting older, look for teachable moments and methods. 3. Set and always revisit your family standards about T.V, movies, phones and internet use. Discuss with your children why it is wise to choose carefully what they watch or listen to. 4. Though this might be tough, but let them know you’ve gone through your own struggles while growing up too. Nothing gives you more sense of confidence and respect as a dad than your willingness and openness to admit to your children that you did your struggle too. Nobody is perfect. If you’ve ever made a mistake, tell them and let them know what you’ve learnt because of it. 5. Reinforce the beauty and benefits of self-control in sexual matters. Tell them the benefits of waiting until marriage to be sexuality involved and also the pitfalls they’ll face if they don’t wait. Use illustartions that point out the consequences of lack of control.